Week 2 Post
We all know that hearing someone is not the same thing as listening to someone. On page 147 in your book it shows the Chinese character for Listening. It is composed of 3 characters put together- ears, eyes, and heart. Think of an example of listening with your ears, eyes, and heart. What was the outcome?
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listening with your ears, eyes and heart.. means really comprehending what someone is telling you with all of you ..all your senses.. hmmm for example if someone is going through a hard time such as grieving somebodys death, a bad financial situation perhaps an illness of something of the sort and you ask them if everything is fine, perhaps they might not be able to open up immediately and explicitly tell you something is wrong..that is when your intuition and "listening" skills come into play and you must learn to listen therefore with your eyes( seeing and recognizing something is wrong) with your ears ( what is it that the person is telling you and what is she omitting) and with your heart ( what is your gut feeling .. is this person opening up or holding back?) ...
ReplyDelete??????? am i doing this right??? i just post comments but i cant really post.. is it the same thing?? does it count as a post? bec thats why i inted it to be.....
ReplyDeleteGrowing up in my family..I am the baby. I can have my attitudes, my freedom and still be loved at the end of the day..even at the ripe age of 19. Now, this may sound nice but when it comes to relationships it is a negative. I've gone through many "conversations" with my boyfriend of three years about how my attitude..ex:little comments, negative thinking. I used to blow off all of the complaints but I had to realize this certain person means the world to me and in order to truly make him as happy as he makes me I have to listen and work with all of my body..my mind and heart especially. I feel like my parents damaged me but I've honestly made changes for the better...it really is not an easy thing. I am set in my ways most times.but I continue to listen and work..I think that counts:]
ReplyDeleteI think that I have most often "listened correctly" whenever there was an outcome to a business situation that really mattered to me. Or when I really liked the person that I was listening to. So I would have to say, that when I was being interviewed for a job, was when I was most attentive in listening with all my heart and soul. You have to eat you know? And hunger can quickly become a very strong motivating force for listening correctly,lol!
ReplyDeletewhen it comes to listening I guess I don't always listen with my eyes ears and heart. I guess the only time i do that is with my family and girlfriend Melissa. I can't think of a certain time but I'm sure its been when Melissa get into an argument about me being bull headed. Sometimes you have to give in when the person matters to you.
ReplyDeleteI have to say the last time I listened like that was when my cat and I were playing Scrabble. I usually beat him but this time he kept drawing the S which he never does. When I confronted him and we started arguing I realized that the real issue wasn't him cheating at Scrabble but him wanting more attention. My ears didn't tell me this as much as my eyes and heart. My eyes because his body language was very closed off, his arms were crossed and he was standing not facing me. My heart listened because I knew there was something more here then what my eyes and ears could percieve. Thanks communications class!
ReplyDeleteAnytime my daughter says anything I try to hear her with every fiber of my being, even though she is only 3 months old and only talks in googoo-gagas, I feel that if I listen hard enough, I can sometimes make out what she is saying.
ReplyDeleteI think my example of listening with your eyes, ears and heart would be similar to Steffany's. Sometimes people are telling you something, but they may not be verbalizing everything they're feeling. My husband's father passed away almost four years ago. When it happened my husband didn't talk very much (ears). He wasn't saying anything, but I could see (eyes) that he was very sad by his manurisms [spell check] and the fact that I witnessed him crying for the first time ever. I didn't want to probe him about how he was feeling because I could tell he didn't want to talk, but I could tell in my heart that he was sad and even somewhat felt guilty that he had not been there. I was able to let him have space while also letting him know, either verbally or non-verbally, that I was there for him.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm... I think my best example is when I was seventeen. I'm a military brat and when I was living in texas before my mom would always leave the house leaving me in charge of the house and having my brother stay at a baby sitter's house. She left one time for the whole month of April and my birthday is April 8th. My friend David spend the whole day/night with me for my birthday. We really got to know eachother after going to walmart to get a cheesecake for my birthday. We stayed up the whole night talking until 9 when we went to get McDonalds for breakfast. We have been Best Friends ever since.
ReplyDeleteIt's not often (if ever) in my social life that I find it necessary to listen with such attentiveness. The only times when it's critical that I listen with my "eyes, ears, and heart" are in academics, most often in classes that cover exceptionally difficult material, such as science or mathematics. In Biology for example the terminology, concepts, and mechanisms that need to be understood can be so intricate that failure to hear them explained, see them in action, and fully commit to the learning process equates to guaranteed failure. Such was the case last semester, when an especially unlikable teacher made a lapse in attention and the commencement of daydreaming just so easy for me. Active listening became easier towards the end of the semester, by the time that my grade was in desperate need of salvaging. Unsurprisingly, there was an observable, positive correlation between how thoroughly I was willing to listen and how high my grade was.
ReplyDeleteI think there a certain situations that are appropriate for each part of listening- some are for the ears only, some for the eyes, and some for the heart. I definitely tend to separate whats only useful to my ears or eyes from my heart, for me to actually combine the three has to be between me and God or the people I love. There'll usually tend to be less shades of gray and more black and white this way, I've learned.
ReplyDeleteI think it probably varies on how deeply you can listen with (eyes ears and heart) on the phone you don't have the eyes and if you aren't able to really empathise then there goes the heart.
ReplyDeleteHere recently I had a friend call up that I hadn't talked to in over a year and a half. Her Shar pei had died a few months ago and she was struggling to get over her loss Simon, called me cause she knows I have georgette (ya'll met georgette when she came to class in her pink buggy). Samone and I met at the zoo, we love animals and I guess, I was the only person in her circle that could REALLY get what she was undegoing.
We talked for about 2 or so hours about her dog and things of that nature.
At the end of it she felt a ton better because she wasnt whistling into the wind. I heard, I understood deeply, and she felt, and knew that over the phone.
I think that's what this sort of listening is all about.
Jerrie
I have a few younger children in my family that have speech problems and sometimes it can be real hard to comprhehend what they are saying.I just try to listen hard and well to try and understand which most of the time works because they seem to be satisfied.
ReplyDeleteThe one good example I can think of is the difference in the speaking and listening styles of both sides of my family. On my mom’s side, everyone’s loud, obnoxious, and opinionated. I learned at a very early age that with them, it’s speak up or shut up, quiet and subdued has never really been their thing. This kind of communication, to me at least, is perceived with my ears and eyes. Rarely does the conversation take on deeper subjects that may evoke emotion. The unspoken rule when we’re all together is no talk of politics or religion. While I enjoy these conversations, matters meant to be heard whole-heartedly are either ignored, dismissed, or simply unspoken. On my dad’s side, everyone’s more reserved and really only speaks when they have something important to say. It makes for a change in pace, but the time spent and conversations had with this side of my family mean more to me. Though not always deep and emotional, I take their words to heart because they’re important. I can listen eyes, ears, and heart.
ReplyDeleteIn my experience working in the Strain Communication Center, I have had the opportunity to help many people with there speeches. Observing people from that tutor perspective has really taught me a lot about listening effectively. I can see how the “ears, eyes, heart” is applied to my method of listening. I use my ears to hear the literal information, that it is organized and well thought out. I use my eyes to if their nonverbal communication is telling me if they are nervous, confident, and if it is in sync with their speech. My heart listens with for the tone and intentions of their words and feeling that they are channeling at the moment. Collectively, this process helps interpret what a person truly wishes to convey.
ReplyDeleteThe times I've listened with my eyes, ears and heart was anytime my grandma would tell me about her childhood. My grandma is losing her memory, so her story would never have an ending. I would listen to everything she had to say because I know that one day she's not going to be here anymore. I'm glad to say I know a little bit about her, no matter how redundant her stories were.
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