Monday, September 21, 2009
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This live community/class journal allows everyone a place to post examples and comments on interpersonal communication behaviors that we will be covering. I will post weekly topics for you to comment on. You are required to post at least once a week, but feel free to post as often as you like! The more examples you can come up with the better.
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I was in Thailand and I bumped into this random French girl in the market and we ended up getting all fucked up and drinking snake blood. The whole was so surrealistic and ritualistic that everytime I saw her for the rest of the time I was there I felt an unspoken bond with her that transended most of the relationships I've had in the past.
ReplyDeleteI would say I have two treu BFFs, though I give that nomenclature to a lot of my friends. My 2 BFFs are my mom and my husband. My mom is my BFF because I can trust her more than anyone else in this world, yes even more than my husband! She's always there for me and even from a young age I could tell her anything and she would understand. Of course she's still my mom and will always try to steer me towards her idea of the right direction. My husband is my BFF because we have sooooo much in common. Besides the sexual attraction, I believe our common interests are what have kept us going for a little over 6 years (2 married). We like the same things and there honestly isn't anyone I'd like to hang out with more than him. We always have a good time. :)
ReplyDeleteI have two very good friends one is my friend luke. We have been friends for 22 years. We love to hunt and fish together we talk about eveything. My second friend is Rocky we went to war together and have been very close for the last 10 years I don't think I could chose which one I was closer to. they are just different people and I like it that way I tust both with my life and I know they trust me with theirs.
ReplyDeleteWhile I don't possess any "BFF" relations, I'd consider reasonable criteria for one to include mutual interests and motivations, and a common foundational ground for each other's values. Things such as honesty, trust, emotional support, etc., are covered under shared interests and motivations. Of equal importance would be the mutual understanding that the friendship and any things exchanged therein (i.e. time, support, effort, etc.) are given only with conscious consent, as gifts, but never owed unless some debt is explicitly agreed upon. It's sufficient to say that I don't enjoy being tied down to friends.
ReplyDeleteI have a great friend who also happens to be probably one of the finest professional music arrangers in the world. When we first met we just "kinda clicked musically speaking." Its strange, cause like you can put both of us working together on a any kind of a song, and it is almost magical how quickly it gets finished professionally! Most of the time it takes us about two and one half hours to finish a song. Also we are great friends outside of the recording studio. But all in all, "its the great verbal and nonverbal synchronization between us in the music," that makes our friendship so cool!
ReplyDeleteI think a true BFF is someone that is always there through the good bad ugly and beautiful fun boring and everything in between. For me, my two BFFs are my sister Val and my cousin Crystal, I think what makes our relationship so strong is that we could say anything to eachother, be nerds, be honest no lines or boundaries no judgment but unconditional trust love respect and acceptance and lots of laughter-the best.
ReplyDeleteGood stuff guys, but Micah your entries always have an element of surprise.... LOL
ReplyDeleteI love your honesty James. Friendships take time and energy that isn't always convenient or desired.
My best friends are Claudia Landeros and Puffer Cevallos( My dog.) Claudia has never judged me, no matter what problems I've had or decisions I've made. She has a certain type of honesty that I need in a friend and that I return. She is beautiful and only makes my life brighter. Puffer Cevallos is ALWAYS there for me:] Through tears and smiles. I love them both and the friendship there is forever.
ReplyDeletei have many friends... but someone that i can call my BEST FRIEND IS my friend yvette! i have known yvette since middle school and although our friendship didnt start right away... through high school we became two inseparable people. we shop,eat,go to the gym, go out and do many any other activities together:... funny thing is we are so different ..for example she is so quiet and reserved and sometimes can be shy...i on the other hand, am loud, talkative (and can even b obnoxious at times :( lol) but at the same time we can be very much like ..we have tons of things in common and always have a fun time.. some elements that i think keep our friendship strong are our shared interest, complimentary personalities, trust, and many other things...
ReplyDeleteI grew up in a small town where the friends I had in 1st grade, were pretty much the same till graduation. Leaving High School I had my 3 best friends, but in the years since, we have sort of grown apart. I'm now only close to one of these girls. I think it takes more than common interests to be best friends. I think it takes a sense of humor, honesty, and communication. My sisters are probably next in line as best friends, and like someone above me pointed out, my dogs make also make the list.
ReplyDeleteProbably some similar experinces and support are more key for me. I tend to be a extreme emphithiser(don't know if that's spelled right) I don't get on with people who only care about themselves. My friends are more the sharing, caring, healing, and feeling types... NO not hippies.
ReplyDeleteI think time plays a big factor in finding true non-relative BFFs. I mean really, those who stick around after the dust has settled must not to be taken for granted. And by dust I mean my mischievous teenage years, my dangerously formative 20s, and now my surprisingly calm, simple, “I can probably never dye my hair blue again, without it looking like a mid-life crisis” 30s. Angelina and Tanya have seen it all and still decided to stick around after 20 years. I think what makes it more surprising is we are nothing alike; with the exception that neither of us knows how to hold a punch. Ours is not a polite relationship. And our bond is even more relentless. Even though we all live in different cities; things just effortlessly pick up where they last left off. Lastly, there is just a comfort in having friends that know who you were, how you changed, and who you have become; and they still want to be your friend!
ReplyDeleteA good friend is someone that can be straight up at all times. They need to be able to tell you the truth about everything without taking advantage of the trust they've earned. They also have to be supportive and share some of the same interests as you. If the friend grows themselves and inspires you to grow as well in life, thats a good friend. They have to have their own voice though. If a person goes along with everything you say then they don't contribute to the friendship.
ReplyDeleteI don't really have a bff in San Antonio, but back in Dallas my friend Danny and I were so close we were practically brothers. We have known each other for 14 years now, and we hung out together all the time. About 7 years ago his mother passed away, and my family practically adopted him. We had him over all the time and any time we made family dinners we made sure to have him over. It's weird we both have brothers, but he and I get along better than we ever have with our biological brothers. I havent told him yet, but I told my fiance that I want him to be my best man at our wedding.
ReplyDeleteA best friend, to me, is someone who I can be around for hours and not get bored of.
ReplyDeleteSomeone I can confide in, and vice versa.
Someone I consider a best friend is my friend
Ryan.
I can trust him, and he just inspires me to be the best person I can be.